Military Man / Flying Saucer Guy

Military Man pops in tonight to check on me. I have gone through some major changes in my life lately that he has been aware of and I considered this really sweet. Then he ask me if I will help him register for another dating site. (excuse me!!) He explained further that he would pay for it he just needed getting help registered. (WHAT!!???) Okay, so I have made it clear that I will not enter a "dating" "exclusive" relationship with this guy before meeting him. Since he is over seas it is not going to happen right now....I don't mind him meeting other girls and taking steps to find someone. I just wasn't expecting him to ask me to help him with this process. I really kinda thought that he was wanting to meet me. The conversation gets better. I explained the above information and he told me it didn't matter. He went on to explain that I didn't care about him. I asked him why he didn't think I cared about him. His response was because I would not send him money because he does not have access to his account. He then let's me know that I don't care about him because I will not pay for him to come home so that I can meet him. (Really???) He explained that he will pay me back once he is here. (yeah, and I have some ocean front property in Arizona to sell!!!) It only gets better from here with him trying to quilt me into getting him home. I love that when we first started talking he was coming home in March and now that March is around the corner he doesn't know when he is coming home!!!!!!!!!!! (I understand it is the Army, but something isn't right about this pic!!)

Then I get a message from the guy I am choosing to call Flying Saucer Guy. When I first started talking to this guy he said, "I am at Flying Saucer all the time. We should hang out there some time." (side note: I love the pretzels) He told me that him and his friends are there all the time and he made it seem like he would invite me to join them. I will admit I got a little excited. It sounded like fun. Not only would I have a chance to get to know him, but I would get to see him interact with his friends. You can learn a lot about a guy that way!!! Well, as you can probably guess that did not happen. He has been over there several time and he sends me a message to let me know. The disappoointing part is that he does not send me a message to invite me along. No, he sends me a message to ask if I want company. Again, a guy that I have NEVER met and know nothing about wanting to come over to my place!!! I kindly say, "No, Thank You" but what I want to say is HELL NO!!!!! you (----------)*mean face* 

Sometimes I feel like I have desperate naive loser on my head!!!!!!!

I am wanting a guy that wants to meet up with me in public....that is a gentleman....has a great sense of homour....that I will be proud to introduce to my family and friends.........uuuggggghhhhhhh!!!!!

Wanna Play Guy

Every once in a while this guy has popped in asking me if I wanna play. This has been going on for some months. I have not expressed interest anytime...I was nice enough to let him know one time that I would not be interested.

Today he sent me a message to let me know that he was available until 3 pm and once again wanted to know if I wanna play. I have an idea. Let us play: How many times does this guy have to be ignored and turned down before he finally gives up?

This Just In.......

I was looking through my profile inbox for an old message. When I noticed that "What You Wearin' Guy" has deleted his profile.........hmmmmmm....might be a smart move!!!!

What I didn't include in my last blog entry is that he put his head on my chest!!! Out in the parking lot!! Now I will admit that he is not the first to attempt this! But MOST guys are subtle about this! I have laughed at the creative ways that guys have done this!! Oh NO not this guy he just out right bent over and put his head on my chest! (If he only knew that he needed to be thankful that my reactions are slow lately! Because instead of just moving out of the way, I would have knocked him out!!!!)


I now know that TACT is a good quality in a guy!!!

The Meet Up w/ What are you wearin' guy!!

I have been going through a lot lately. Besides the normal issues of guys popping in wanting friends with benefits. I have experienced some major changes in other areas of my life that have caused me to be very emotional lately. I wanted to write a message to the "What are you wearin' guy" telling him that I would not be able to meet with him. However, with all my emotions lately I could not do it and be nice about it. Then it got too late to back out. I decided to go ahead and meet him...I figured if it got to bad I could just leave!!

When I arrived he started in...I could see how he was looking me, and he let me know that I am his type of girl....I couldn't help but think REALLY, because you know nothing about me. His welcoming repulsed me. I excused my self to the restroom that had some good music playing so I danced around and facebooked for while. (Did I mention that today was a really emotional day!!)

I finally got the nerve to make it back to the table...(I was in there so long that  he thought I left...ooops) Once we got over the fact that this guy CLEARLY LOVES boobs!! He was actually quite interesting. I did enjoy talking to him about his life. I had missed that the guy is from Europe!! His job requires that he moves every 1 and half to 2 years. He has lived in a number of places and has some very interesting stories. As I am thinking, "you know I would NEVER date this guy, but I could handle hanging out with him every once in a while" it is time to leave. The first thing that caught my attention is he kept mentioning that he wants to meet up tomorrow night....I told him several times that tomorrow night is my dance night. I didn't invite him along, and I kept telling we could not meet up because it is my dance night. He still made it known that he is going to attempt to contact me tomorrow night to go out!!!! (Maybe I should have tattooed this on my forehead.)

Then we walk out and he walks me to my car. This is a nice gesture. Then it happened.........He took this opportunity to step back and admire the view. I'll admit I have seen this look before....I have even seen it from the guy that I Googled.....(that guy I didn't mind getting that look from him. He also even got really close and I didn't mind that either) However, this guy I don't know, and the few things I know about him screams this guy is a loner, and is just looking to have a good time for a few months. Having him close to me felt gross. Then he tried to get a feel and that just felt slimy....I grabbed his hands, gave them back to him and let him know I was LEAVING!!!

UUUGGGHHH!!! This was a tolerable situation. He had gotten past the boobs and was really starting to come across as a grown man. Then he pulled that CRAP and we were back to him coming across as a 4 year old boy that doesn't know how to act in public.

You know what is really sad!! I get it...I get why girls end up with "those" guys. You know the ones that everyone calls bad boys...they cause more hurt then good but the girl keeps going back to him. One of the reasons that happens is because as humans we get lonely. Then we realize that while we don't have options we do have offers. So we settle for what we are being offered. I might have done that in this situation. However, I had a great time with a friend on Valentine's Day and I realized that no matter how bad it gets I don't have to settle for this CRAP!!!

I want the whole package!!! A guy that is educated, has interest, hobbies, family, friends, can act appropriately in public, and TRULY LOVES me!!

What are You Wearin'? - Guy

A guy started messaging me that I got a little excited about!!! Big teddy bear, conservative looking, educated type of guy!!! The conversation started well....but he quickly went to the one thing guys notice about me.....my boobs!!! I tend to just except this and allow the guy to say what he feels he needs to say. I let him....Now, he can't get off of it!! I typically don't mind guys acting like guys, but this time is a little different.

I think it is because I am wanting a TRUE companion lately....I want a guy who can admire what he sees but treat me like a lady. I also want a guy that has a lot going for him. God, Family, friends, interest, and hobbies...are a BIG part of what I am wanting in a guy.

I am starting a new chapter in my life tomorrow and this guy has said he would like to go out on the same night. It sounded like a good idea to me. Again got a little excited!! He sent me a message letting me know when but no where. I replied asking where and he sent me a message asking me what am I wearing. I avoided the question and he said where....along with the message below.

"I was just wondering...what are you going to wear on our first date?
I have some wishes but I will leave up to you to make me smile when we meet."

I will admit....normally this is something I would over look!!! But last night was Valentine's and God bless me.....with great company A GREAT FRIEND and someone I would consider a brother...went to dinner with me and treated me like a lady all night.....I couldn't help but think...THIS IS WHAT I WANT!!! A good night out talking about what God is doing in our lives!! and common interest!!! and a COMPLETE gentleman the WHOLE time!!!

I will admit that feeling the need for companionship has caused me to consider guys I would have wrote off...and putting up with behavior that other girls would considered repulsive...

Don't get me wrong I am not looking for a guy to be perfect and I am not expecting them to step out of their skins and not be guys....

But I did go out for a great dinner!!! and now I am wanting that same GREAT dinner with guys that I consider "dating" for lack of a better word.